For men: Tips on how to time your orgasm

I've been boasting about the ability to decide when I want to cum and some readers wanted me to share some tips. I promised I would, so here goes.

The most important thing, in my opinion, is breathing. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. This should calm you down, because it sort of feels like you're letting out more air than you're taking in. Try to concentrate on the breathing, I'm sure you can move your hips without thinking about it that much. Don't worry if your breathing sounds loud, she's only going to think it's sexy. You can get more tips for breathing from running and martial arts.

The second most effective trick is mind games. Don't think about how great her ass looks when your cock sinks in. Think about work. Think about groceries. Think about what to do next weekend. If you still feel like you're going to cum soon, think about your grandma. Don't think about sex, pussy, ass and don't concentrate on how good it feels.

I'm not saying you have to think about your grandma all the time during sex. You only need to do it when your nearing an orgasm. It's just to fend off the climax so you can once again admire that sweet brown rosebud you're fucking.

I still do this a lot, but the thoughts I use are more ordinary nowadays. When I was a teenager I had a few really disgusting memories that I brought back when needed. Well, we all know that with those testosterone levels you really need something special for it to work. Happily, nowadays, more common things are enough.

Another good skill is to know when to pull out. If you've failed in the above two, which you will every now and then, you can still save it by pulling out in time. I mean really pulling out immediately, not just slowing down or first taking a few more pushes. If you're really close to the edge, pull out immediately.

Yeah, I know, it's not perfect. You might ruin some pleasure from her by doing that, but you will anyway if you cum too early. And naturally you can exchange your cock for a few fingers for the time it takes for you to cool off a bit, or you can lick her for a while.

Pulling out is a lot harder when, for example, a girl is giving you a blowjob since she's in charge. If she gives you that one stroke too much she'll push you over the edge and you'll cum on her face. There's is a last straw that you can try clinging to. You can squeeze your cock with the index finger and thumb just below the helmet. The important thing is to have your index finger under your penis. I really don't know all the anatomical terms to explain this better, but just try it and you'll probably get it. This will stop the orgasm if you do it fast enough. You can practise this while masturbating.

The obvious, but still worth mentioning, is pace. If your nearing an orgasm, slow down for a while and instead go deeper. If it feels like you're going to cum immediately if you start quickening the pace again, pull out and cool off for a while. Spank her. Strangle her. Tell her she's a bitch. You know the drill.

Even if you apply all the tricks in the world, you're still probably going to cum too early every now and then. Don't take it too seriously, but be sure to finish pleasing her. Lick and finger her to an orgasm. No way in hell are you allowed to stop since you already came. I hope no one in the world seriously thinks that.

There's the things that popped into my mind during this half an hour. I'll let you know if I forgot something important.

Please do comment and share your own wisdom in this matter. Bear in mind that I'm no professional and I'm not claiming to be one. These are my opinions and I'm hoping someone can learn from them.