Why anal?

Nickname 'tes' asked about my anal fixation in my previous post. (The comment is in Finnish.) I already started writing a reply, but soon realized that the subject needs more attention. There's some issues that I've already touched earlier, but hopefully this will be a more thorough explanation than I've written before.

Some years ago I tried tracking down the starting point of my anal fixation. I remember that my first sex partner, whom I was also dating at the time, suggested anal sex, but I was the one who refused since I didn't find it interesting. A few years later my diary is filled with anal-obsessed fantasies of girls in my class at school. (Yes, I wrote a diary as a kid. Let it go.;)) I have no idea what happened and when exactly. I don't even know if the change was gradual or instant since there's lenghty intervals when I didn't write at all.

I watched a lot of porn at that age, though it was a lot harder to come by since Al Gore had not yet invented the Internet. I had a big collection, but it wasn't especially focused on anal. Today pretty much all the porn I watch is anal-related. Porn must've had an effect on my views on sex, but I don't think it's one of the big reasons behind my obsession for ass fucking.

What is it then? What makes anal sex so enticing?

I think what I love most is the intimacy. I can't think of a more private place in the human body than the anus. Of all the guys who give it a shot, only very few get to see inside the panties of a beautiful girl. Only a small subset of those already carefully selected men gain access to the asshole. Assfucking is special.

Having a girl spread her pussy in front of you is, in today's world, not that big of a deal. Having a girl spread her ass cheeks, however, is. It's the most beautiful thing. How gives a fuck about a sunset at a beach or the birth of a child when you can look at the spread ass of a hot girl. Ok, maybe I went a little overboard, but you get the point ;)

Intimacy has common grounds with submission. For some reason, the way I see it, a girl is submitting when she's getting fucked up the ass. The only explanation for this association that I can think of, and I admit I maybe going way over my head, is the fact that the anus was not, anatomically speaking, "designed" to be entered. It's submission because, in a way, the only aim is to please the man. You can't even reproduce this way. Of course, the truth is that most women enjoy anal sex just as much as men, but I suppose the primitive parts in the male brain don't mind.

Ass-to-mouth is all about submission. The physical sensation is the same whether you get your cock sucked before or after anal intercourse. The extra pleasure is all in your head. It's about having a girl that's willing to do pretty much anything to please you. When you strip the details, isn't that exactly what love is about? Loving someone so much that you'd give your own life for the other. I'm not saying that ass-to-mouth is the way to show you boyfriend you love him. What I am saying is that maybe, in a way, the feeling of getting your cock sucked after anal sex, is similar to the feeling of being loved.

I bet I'm pissing off a lot of people when talking about ATM and love in the same paragraph. I still have a lot of issues to be solved with that thing called love. The post "Is love a hoax?" may have only been the beginning. However, seek no comfort in commenting this post and saying I have a twisted image of love since above I'm using the term to speak of exactly the Hollywoodish unconditional love that I always get preached about. My personal resolution on love is not yet complete, I'm not sure if such love even exists.

It's a common misbelief that guys love anal sex because the ass is so tight. It's simply not true. At least in my case it isn't. The ass only feels especially tight when you enter. Yeah, sure, it does feel great for that little while, but once you start pounding the sensation is pretty much the same whether it's anal or vaginal. It's not the tightness.