You can do anything

Last week I spoke on the phone with Jenni when she was at a bar. I knew it was more convenient for her to come over to my place because she had work the next day so I offered to accomodate her. I told her it's OK if she just wants to sleep and not have sex.

Well, I fucked her up the ass and she sucked my cock right after. Once again she was my obedient slut and kept repeating "you can do anything to me". While I fucked her ass I told her that I'm going to cum inside her, then take some cum out with my finger and make her swallow it. Her reply was: "you can do anything to me". Perfect. Well, after cumming it didn't seem like that good of an idea anymore so I didn't. Now I regret not doing it.

The next day she came over, feeling depressed about some stuff in her life. She wanted some tender loving so I gave it to her. This time she called all the shots. She sucked my cock, then told me to go down on her. She told me in which position she wants to be fucked and so on. This time around, I was her bitch. She told me later that the sexiest thing was that she could order me to cum. I kept fucking her as long as she liked and when she said "now cum" I stopped doing all the tricks I talked about in my previous post and ejaculated very soon after.

Jenni is going up and down with our current form of relationship. First she hates the whole thing, the next day she takes it up the ass.

I've also been in contact with Lisa constantly. At least something got sorted out on the phone a few days ago. She thought that I was looking for a relationship and that was the reason she was keeping up all her defenses. Well, I told her I just want to be friends with benefits. That was OK with her, but when I asked if it's OK to come over for the night she said no. So, I still can't read her very well, but I think this was a turn in a better direction. Maybe I'll get to fuck her after all.

Otherwise I'm just enjoying the summer. Even though I'm very busy as always I've also managed to spend some time at Hietsu (a beach in Helsinki). Not the best place for a guy like me. I'd have to be jerking off all the time.

For men: Tips on how to time your orgasm

I've been boasting about the ability to decide when I want to cum and some readers wanted me to share some tips. I promised I would, so here goes.

The most important thing, in my opinion, is breathing. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. This should calm you down, because it sort of feels like you're letting out more air than you're taking in. Try to concentrate on the breathing, I'm sure you can move your hips without thinking about it that much. Don't worry if your breathing sounds loud, she's only going to think it's sexy. You can get more tips for breathing from running and martial arts.

The second most effective trick is mind games. Don't think about how great her ass looks when your cock sinks in. Think about work. Think about groceries. Think about what to do next weekend. If you still feel like you're going to cum soon, think about your grandma. Don't think about sex, pussy, ass and don't concentrate on how good it feels.

I'm not saying you have to think about your grandma all the time during sex. You only need to do it when your nearing an orgasm. It's just to fend off the climax so you can once again admire that sweet brown rosebud you're fucking.

I still do this a lot, but the thoughts I use are more ordinary nowadays. When I was a teenager I had a few really disgusting memories that I brought back when needed. Well, we all know that with those testosterone levels you really need something special for it to work. Happily, nowadays, more common things are enough.

Another good skill is to know when to pull out. If you've failed in the above two, which you will every now and then, you can still save it by pulling out in time. I mean really pulling out immediately, not just slowing down or first taking a few more pushes. If you're really close to the edge, pull out immediately.

Yeah, I know, it's not perfect. You might ruin some pleasure from her by doing that, but you will anyway if you cum too early. And naturally you can exchange your cock for a few fingers for the time it takes for you to cool off a bit, or you can lick her for a while.

Pulling out is a lot harder when, for example, a girl is giving you a blowjob since she's in charge. If she gives you that one stroke too much she'll push you over the edge and you'll cum on her face. There's is a last straw that you can try clinging to. You can squeeze your cock with the index finger and thumb just below the helmet. The important thing is to have your index finger under your penis. I really don't know all the anatomical terms to explain this better, but just try it and you'll probably get it. This will stop the orgasm if you do it fast enough. You can practise this while masturbating.

The obvious, but still worth mentioning, is pace. If your nearing an orgasm, slow down for a while and instead go deeper. If it feels like you're going to cum immediately if you start quickening the pace again, pull out and cool off for a while. Spank her. Strangle her. Tell her she's a bitch. You know the drill.

Even if you apply all the tricks in the world, you're still probably going to cum too early every now and then. Don't take it too seriously, but be sure to finish pleasing her. Lick and finger her to an orgasm. No way in hell are you allowed to stop since you already came. I hope no one in the world seriously thinks that.

There's the things that popped into my mind during this half an hour. I'll let you know if I forgot something important.

Please do comment and share your own wisdom in this matter. Bear in mind that I'm no professional and I'm not claiming to be one. These are my opinions and I'm hoping someone can learn from them.

A weekend with the russian girl and a movie with Jenni

Last weekend I hosted the russian girl I met a few weeks ago. It was a lot of fun, but sexually it's hardly worth mentioning. She still shaved her pussy in that same weird way with hair around her labia, but nowhere else. She also hadn't shaved her legs for a while, which was pretty disgusting to tell you the truth. A really nice girl, but someone really needs to tell her a few facts about life, the universe and everything.

Sunday, after I had taken her to the airport, I went to a movie with Jenni. I was so horny for a well shaved pussy that I had a really hard time concentrating on the film. Afterwards we were standing at a bus stop and I sort of let my hand go down her skirt and found out that she wasn't wearing any panties. You can imagine how I could hardly contain myself. I asked her to come home with me, but she refused because of an early wakeup next morning. Today, via SMS, I learned that the truth is she's still in love with me and can't handle a fuck buddy relationship.

She still makes me think whether I made the right decision in dumping her. I enjoy spending time with her, she likes it up the ass, she does ATM. There's a lot of good things about her. I guess I'll have to read some old blog posts once again to remind myself of the bad.